Turnaround Coaching

Shared by George Beuckelaere, a 29-year police veteran:

A 22 year old girl walks into the Sheriff Dept today. She has the right side of her face all swollen up. She was assaulted on Thursday night. Didn’t want to report it because she didn’t want to get him in trouble. Finally a friend tells her she must report it because her mouth is so swollen she can’t brush her teeth.

Turns out the man is on parole (meaning he went to PRISON) for…….. guess what? Domestic Violence.

The sad part is that she knew it before she started sleeping with the guy.

Says George, “The sad and frustrating thing about children who grow up in abusive homes seem to be that they are drawn to them as adults. They don’t know any other ‘normal,’ and that just perpetuates the violence. It CAN be broken, but it takes work to break the cycles. I regularly tell women, ‘If you aren’t going to prosecute for you, do so for your kids. Do you want your daughters to believe this is appropriate behavior? If you do, let them continue to live with you getting beat up.’ It doesn’t always work, but I think it stirs something in their hearts.”

As friends and family of abused women, let’s make a difference. Join the My BFF’s Helper calls on Sunday afternoons. We’re live at 3:30pm Eastern/12:30pm Pacific. Call 712-432-3066 and use access code 640779.

I find it interesting that many non-Christians who believe the “Universe” is out to bless them are teaching and regurgitating wisdom they learned from Believers. They have read and listened to materials from great leaders who also taught about the Source of their success.

However, when they pass on the wisdom they have gleaned, they conveniently leave out the part about having a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Secular humanists do a good job of training people to expect the blessings that belong to the sons of God as though they are just as entitled to the children’s bread as we are. The truth is, however, that they are living in harvest because they practice the spiritual laws that we often ignore.

God said if we give, it will be given unto us.

God said if we obey, we will eat the good of the land.

God said if we speak, we’ll have what we say.
Those who teach new age stuff do all those things and reap the harvest of their obedience to God’s universal laws. How much  more should we, God’s sons, obey the laws he set in place to bless us???

Fortunately, the wealth of the wicked is being stored up for us, and God told us not to worry about their current success. We already know the outcome.

It just seems so strange to me that it  has taken me so long to come around, to get to the place of obedience, when the “world” obeys without much effort. I’m just saying…!

Today’s focus was on how to talk to your abused friend without coming off as controlling. I gave some key steps you can use to help your friend feel heard, safe, and supported by you.

My BFF’s Helper 2012-04-02

Today we discussed what it is like to be abused. As you listen to the call, you will hear her thoughts about feeling afraid, confused, abandoned, conned, ashamed, and embarrassed. You will hear some of the things your abused friend wishes you would do for her. This may be one of the most important calls you listen to about domestic violence!

My BFF’s Helper 2012-03-25

In this session we discussed healthy relationships. You should know that you are one of the most important elements in your abused friend’s life. You are one of the few things your abused friend has to rely on, and it is really important for you to remain consistent in your support and friendship. Part of that is going to mean you are going to need to know how to talk about healthy relationships with your friend so she can make the connection that her relationship does not meet the criteria of healthy.

My BFF’s Helper 2012-02-28

Helping you talk to your loved one about her abusive relationship!

This first call is dedicated to helping you understand your friend’s perspective. In order to get a good feel for how to approach your friend about the abuse you know exists in her relationship, you first have to understand what she is experiencing.

My BFF’s Helper 2010-02-21

Jeremiah 2:27-28
“For they have turned their back to Me, And not their face; but in the time of their trouble they will say, ‘Arise and save us.’ But where are your gods which you made for yourself? Let them arise, if they can save you in the time of your trouble.”

People in this country are so quick to ask “Where is God?” when all hell breaks loose. His reply? “What happened to the gods you chose? Let them help you.”

Humans can be so fickle! How can you decide you don’t want to be accountable to God and then get mad at him if he says ok?