Turnaround Coaching

This first call is dedicated to helping you understand your friend’s perspective. In order to get a good feel for how to approach your friend about the abuse you know exists in her relationship, you first have to understand what she is experiencing. My BFF’s Helper 2010-02-21

The words bitch and hoe (short for whore; you can’t spell it “who” because that’s a different word) are tossed around so much that young ladies are no longer offended. Do you know what a bitch is? Webster’s dictionary says that it is a female dog or other carnivorous animal. I guess women could be [...]

Every woman who wants to leave an abusive relationship should be able to without fear. Unfortunately, it’s just not that easy for most of them. Abusers have tormented their victims with threats of harm if they try to leave. You think about escaping, but you don’t follow through.   I used to volunteer at a [...]

You’re in an abusive relationship and you want out, but you’re terrified your significant other will do something violent to you or your children if you try to leave. He has said that if he can’t have you, no one will or if you leave him he will kill himself or something equally scary. Because [...]

My friend Erika asked me to write a note about Domestic Violence (DV) and my experience with it as a police officer. I hope this will be helpful for those who have experienced DV first hand and especially those who are living with it now.   As a background, I have been a cop for [...]

When I ask women in abusive relationships why they stay, an answer I get many times is that they believe things will change. In their minds they can see him when he’s good, and they think the abuse is temporary. Author Lundy Bancroft, who works with abusers (identified as angry and controlling men), has said [...]

Most girls are raised to have a dream, and when you’re raised in a home with a loving father, that dream is even more desirable. It’s not our fault, ladies, that we want to marry a Prince Charming. Even powerful, self-assured women want a man who is princely. I mean, really, who wants a toad? [...]